10:51 AM, Apr 12, 2009   |    comments
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Looking inside the YOUR SHOW INBOX, we found a note from Ada Gamble about the lessons learned from the death of 22-year-old Major League Baseball pitcher Nick Adenhart.  He was killed earlier this week by a drunk driver.

"In baseball, the Angels lost a young starting pitcher at the hands of drunk driver. I believe our thoughts and prayers should go out to the Angels organization and the parents of this young man. However, I want to extend that further and ask that people take a moment to expand their thoughts and prayers out to anyone who has had their life impacted by a drunk driver in light of this young man's fame, as his death will be honored by millions, as it should. Yet, his fame should not minimize the shock and grief every family who experiences this tragedy feels.

For the reset of us, we should take this as a reminder that we are never promised a tomorrow, so it is important that we live for today. It is important that spouses kiss before they leave because the reality is there is no guaranty that they will come home. We must make sure our loved ones know how much we love them so we don't sit in a situation wishing we had one more chance to tell them. Enjoy today. Use this as a reminder to reach inside yourself and decide what is truly important.
I work with the elderly averaging the age of 85. As we talk, they never look back on their lives and wish they would have spent more time on a proposal, wish they should have made sure they watched American Idol, that they should have had a bigger house or a better car, or that they should have pushed themselves harder to reach the position of power that they wanted. What they do say is they wish they would have spent more time playing with their kids, they wish they would have went to their child's play instead of working late (even though their intentions in were to give their child more material items).

They talk about their person to person relationships. They talk about love. They speak to the fact that they wish they would have appreciated what they had instead of being always focused on where they were going or where they had been. Many of them are good people who did the best with what they had, but in that it gives us the opportunity to learn from their reflection, and not sit in a chair in the future mad at ourselves because we made sure we worked hard to afford for our kids to play every sport (when they most likely just want to play with you) was more important. We don't want to sit in a home alone wishing that we spent less time worrying about what the future would bring and snapping at our family because we were to anxious to hear anything but our own words in our head. I could go on and on with the many stories I have heard.

We can take this day and be shocked and saddened and in a week go back to living the life we always have or we can let it impact us on a deeper level. On a level that causes one to reframe their perception and live for today so that later we will not be sitting alone in a nursing home with next to none of our possessions wishing we would have learned back then what we know right now.

Go home tonight, kiss your family, call a friend and tell them that you care because you are not immune from this level of tragedy.
I hope with all of my being that I, as well as you, let this change us and allow us to live a richer life, with the riches not being money but love, friendship, and fun.

My thoughts go out to the world with a dream that at least one person who receives this will take the tragedy of this death and the many other meaningless deaths that have come before and remember, reflect, and change to enrich your life and future. In this, these tragedies are not in vain."

Ada Gamble


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